the emotion color wheel by marshall rosenberg

Tendencies/behaviors I observe that stand in the way/reduce (even in a minor way) your strength/power/influence….Qualities or behaviors I admire & value in you….Consider using language like this as you offer feedback to each other: I can help you see your blind spots, in a way that can help you change. I can say tough things from a place of love. But that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t share something I see that you may not. In responding, we emphasize self-curiosity and sharing of experience, not telling each other what to do. In other cases, a member has dived in to explore a challenging issue. Can I share more deeply (on a related theme) in a way that encourages you to also share further?.

How can I/we help you feel more comfortable to discuss the issue you have hinted at?.Your understanding may be incomplete and half-baked, but that’s what forum is for: A place to try out ideas and feelings that you’re not yet ready to admit to others, perhaps even to yourself.I understand it can be hard, but it would be a wonderful gift to yourself and to the forum if you were willing to share more.

Whether as an outside facilitator, moderator, or regular member, we should all feel invited to sit up, pay attention, and say to that member (in the most loving and generous way): Sometimes a member will hint at a deeper issue but then quickly pull back and say that they are not ready to go there. But let’s acknowledge that this is a practice that must be nurtured it’s hard to do and sometimes we need to encourage and push each other. Because of our commitment to confidentiality and non-judgmental sharing, we’re willing to dig beneath the surface and explore questions we might not discuss anywhere else. We value forum because we can speak our truth and hear the truth from others.

The emotion color wheel by marshall rosenberg